We had a 17-year-old exchange student.?
Ulysses Elias Ulysses, We had plenty of hesitations about ending her exchange. She told several stories about where she got the weed, starting with Its not mine, to a guy I loaned money paid me back in weed, to finally I got it from my ex-boyfriend. The validity of the contract is never in question. Students and their parents agree to refrain from drugs, alcohol, and sex during the exchange, and obey host family rules. If you break one of the first three, you get sent home. This is the policy of all Exchange Student Programs based on guidelines from the State Dept. My only choice in the matter was to report it or not. It doesnt matter if its legal where you came from, or even if its legal in the state where the exchange is taking place. She wasnt arrested, or even deported. Her participation in the program was ended. The weed was the final straw. She repeatedly lied about her whereabouts, and as described previously, invited a random stranger to my home to have sex, and when my daughter would not cooperate, she slipped out to do what she wanted anyway. She had the same rules my other children have. She agreed to the rules, along with her parents before her arrival. We had discussed her behavior with her on a number of occasions, making it plain that continued problems would put her ability to stay at risk. We love this student, but she was wrecking our family. The main thrust of my question is do I tell the parents all of the gory details, or spare them. I have 3 basic categories of things she did: Facts things I caught her doing, Heresay things my kids TOLD me she was doing, and Suspicions things Im pretty sure she was doing, but have no proof.