I'm male and during sex I contract my muscles specially in my anus &?
I'm male and during sex I contract my muscles specially in my anus & genitals area, should I do it or it's better to be relaxed during intercourse? Depends on your goal. First, if you enjoy what you are doing, good for you and party on. If you want to experiment, here are two things to consider. And maybe sometimes youll want to do one, and sometimes youll want to do the other. Generally speaking, tension can make things happen faster, but it also tends to localize sensation (you feel pleasure in less of your body, not more), and it puts a limit on how high you can go. There are very practical limits on how strongly and for how long you can tense, and you may feel tired, even sore, afterwards. Relaxation can allow you to feel pleasure in more of your body - relaxation plus attention are two of the instructions to feel orgasm throughout the body. If you dont have your attention on making your muscles tense, you can use that attention to feel more of yourself and feel more of your partner. Relaxation may allow you to go longer (if you wish) and far, far higher (greater intensity of pleasure). There is no limit to how much you can relax, and you wont feel tired or sore - you might feel fantastic. FWIW, my teachers have been researching sensuality for almost fifty years, and they have yet to find a maximum amount of pleasure you can experience.